The Christian Conservative issues with sexual freedom are comparable to the same problems with sexual freedom in Islam. Yet the two hate each other. My mother a staunch rightwing has literally said with a straight face, “Islam treats their woman so bad, they take away basic human rights in the name of religion”, and then she gets really defensive when I compare the two.  

Ted Talks Esther Perel Love Vs Desire in long term relationships

A couple key points I really liked about this.

-To be in a successful erotic relationship, each person needs a private erotic space. Without understanding that desire is selfish, love is selfless and that these ideas conflict I’m starting to see it as lust and desire is the type of selfish that allows everyone to be present and comfortable enough to be themselves and share that with others.

-Foreplay does not start five minutes before the touching, it starts immediately after the last orgasm. I’ve talked with Hung about this pretty extensively, about how when a safe, or comforting mental space is set up all day before sex it is usually better sex. 

Time for a long summers nap with 9 tedtalks about sexual health

I like that he lays out the issue of the dominant culture being ‘blind’ to terms like gender, sexual orientation, and race.

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"I love kissing. If I could kiss all day, I would. I can’t stop thinking about kissing. I like kissing more than sex because there’s no end to it. You can kiss forever. You can kiss yourself into oblivion. You can kiss all over the body. You can kiss yourself to sleep. And when you wake up, you can’t stop thinking about kissing. Dammit, I can’t get anything done because I’m so busy thinking about kissing. Kissing is madness! But it’s absolute paradise, if you can find a good kisser."

— Sufjan Stevens on kissing. (via h-o-r-n-g-r-y)

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